Frequently Asked Questions

What is a UME Weekend?

United Marriage Encounter is a worldwide non-profit organization dedicated to improving marriages by introducing practical, ongoing communication tools over the course of an entire Weekend starting on Friday night and ending on Sunday night.  A UME Weekend combines practical methods, Christian values, and personal experiences, shared by trained leadership couples, to improve communication between husbands and wives.

The Weekends are hosted by leadership couples, all volunteers, who teach and demonstrate methods that improve communication, by sharing experiences from their own lives. The Weekend is presented in a conference-type setting with approximately 30 couples. After initial introductions, no other group sharing is required. Each couple is given enough time to talk privately, free from the distractions of everyday life.

You and your spouse will focus on each other throughout the Weekend. You’re given plenty of one-on-one time as a couple to share with each other, trying out the communication tools and ideas presented. It’s an opportunity to learn new ways to communicate and also to connect deeply or even re-connect with your spouse on an emotional and spiritual level.


Who should attend a United Marriage Encounter Weekend?

A Marriage Encounter Weekend is designed to help good marriages become even better. Although many couples with troubled marriages have found value in the weekend, we recommend other weekends for that need. See our Resources section to determine which one might be the best for you.

Does the Weekend really cost what I paid when I registered?

NO. The registration fee per couple is used by the local community to purchase supplies and to offset costs to prepare for the weekend. UME provides the funding needed to pay hotel costs and meals through the generosity of couples who have attended a Weekend and have “Paid Forward” for you to attend. This is done through weekend donations and ongoing annual contributions so that any couple can experience a weekend regardless of their ability to pay. You will be given the opportunity to “Pay Forward” for another couple on your weekend as well.

What does a Weekend cost?

The cost of attending a UME Weekend, including room, meals and other expenses, has already been paid for you through the donations of other couples. Others have paid this cost – over $840 per couple – as a gift to you. There is a one-time registration fee per couple, generally $80, (it varies in different parts of the country) to cover other costs. The future of UME has always been dependent upon donations. Near the end of the Weekend, you will be invited to contribute to future Weekends for other couples. You are free to decide how much you want to give so that others can have the same opportunity. Your donation is tax-deductible in the United States. UME is a non-profit organization and is a member of the Evangelical Council for Financial Accountability, which reflects the highest standards of Christian stewardship.

Can we skip a session?

No. The whole program is like a set of interlocking building blocks. If you leave some out the structure will be incomplete. And, because your Weekend cost has been funded by individuals/couples we ask that you honor their generosity by making plans to attend the entire Weekend. Their donation was an investment in you. If you can’t attend all sessions, please reschedule to a time when you can stay the entire Weekend – from 7:30 Friday night until 5:30 Sunday evening.

How do I register for a Weekend?

You can register online or by mail. To register online, click on the “Looking for a Weekend” button either here or on the Home page. This will allow you to check information on dates, locations, and availability. Click on the USA or Non-USA location buttons, select the date and location that is best for you, and fill out the registration form. To register by mail, please email or call 1-866-483-8889 to request a brochure. Click on “Contact Us” to send us an email.

How much Christian teaching is integrated into the Weekend?

The primary focus of the Weekend is to provide couples practical methods for improving communication, growing closer to each other, and strengthening the bond between husband and wife. We believe a successful marriage is a Christ-centered marriage. The Christian content in a UME Weekend is integral but not intrusive.

What if we do not go to church, or are non-believers?

United Marriage Encounter welcomes all faiths, including non-practicing Christians and non-believers. Since our primary mission is to improve marriage, one man one woman legally married, any such married couple can enjoy and greatly benefit from attending a UME Weekend. Although there are discussions relating to a Christ-centered marriage as part of a successful marriage, the Christian content is presented without preaching.

We are interested in attending. Can we invite another couple to go with us?

If you’d like to give another couple a chance to improve their marriage as well, by all means, invite them. Contact the UME office and we will send additional brochures and registration information to you. You can also refer the couple to our website ( for online registration.

Do you offer counseling on a Weekend?

A United Marriage Encounter Weekend does not provide counseling for couples or individuals.

I have more questions.

If you have any more questions about United Marriage Encounter or the Weekend program, please feel free to call our office at 866-483-8889, or email us at


The vision of United Marriage Encounter is to start a transformation in one man, one woman marriages that leads to stronger Christian families and stronger Christian communities, one man one woman legally married.

Any married couple, regardless of age, length of marriage, or faith that will allow God to work in their marriage will find great benefits from a United Marriage Encounter Weekend. Our Weekends are non-denominational but Christ-centered. The ideas and methods you will learn have proven to start a transformation in couples. For some it is an awareness of God’s plan for them, for some it is a calling, and yet for others it a transformation back to earlier romance and friendship. Come see what kind of transformation God has planned for you.